BravoFilipino | Teodoro Jaen Jr., Correspondent | Do you ever get the sense that you’re still a bit of a work in progress? Do you have the desire to constantly bettering yourself but discover that you end up in a downward circle of depression because you just never feel like you can measure up? This is the reality that many individuals face every day. According to research done, this may be one of the most common reasons of both weight gain and emotional eating disorders.
The loop of believing that we are flawed is one that we must all break free from.
The realization that each of us is a one-of-a-kind and wonderful human being is the most liberating of all the facts about ourselves that we need to assimilate and accept. There is no one else on this planet who is quite like us, and there never will be. After we have come to terms with this about ourselves, we will be able to focus on developing those aspects of ourselves that are already positive. Without this perspective, we would spend our entire lives trying to reach some level of self-acceptance, and we won’t progress very far beyond this stage in our lives.
An ancient African adage advises that if we do not have any enemies within us, then none of our exterior foes will be able to give us any harm or hurt. Have you ever noticed that when things are going well on the inside and you are feeling safe and pleased with life, the things that go wrong in your life don’t appear to be as bad, but when you are feeling bad about yourself, things are so different? When things aren’t going the way we want them to, the world takes on a lot more ominous air, and it becomes significantly harder to maintain composure.
Learning to love and appreciate your worth and the unique qualities that make you who you are is frequently the first step towards mastering skills such as learning how to maintain a healthy weight, feeling confident when attending school or making a job change, or picking up a new pastime. The majority of the things we put off that would be to our own advantage and enrichment are frequently the things that we don’t accomplish. This could be because, on some level, we don’t believe that we are deserving enough or good enough to do these things for ourselves.
Confront those ideas, and beginning tomorrow, pick one thing you’d like to do for yourself and begin doing it. Because, you get it, you are absolutely worth it! The majority of people have to fight negative self-talk and almost never compliment themselves in any way. When you wake up, take a moment to glance in the mirror and relay to your reflection the same advice that you would give to your closest friend… You are worth the effort!